Below are questions Enchanted Life U students asked in a recent episode of Manifesting Success Stories. Listen to episode #326 to hear the answers or read the answers below. Please excuse the imperfections the answers were taken from a transcription. 

Question: I would like to know what is your, what advice do you most often give and then on to be the most helpful for beginners who are just learning LOI?

Answer:  It's where we start it in the beginning of the steps (Steps for Success-Manifest $10k Pre-Work). It is to start paying attention to the words that are coming out of your mouth, because we, we especially beginners. I want to visualize this. I want to do this, but you know, if you're visualizing this amazing life, but you're speaking like this sucks,

that sucks. I can't do this. And maybe not those direct words, but indirectly saying like, this is all kind of not great or telling a bad story, like that's what you're creating. And that those words that continuously come out of your mouth are way more powerful than that, that vision that excites you for like 30 seconds. So my advice to beginners is generally,

always just start paying attention to the words that are coming out of your mouth and, and really start choosing those. Don't worry about all these big things. Should I visualize that? Should I do this vision board? Should I say a hundred mantras? Like just pay attention to what's already happening and stop anything that isn't what you want more of. 

Question: What advice can you share regarding relationships? 

Answer: I have book that'll be coming out in 2022 some time about manifesting that great relationship. But the the key that I would say is to be the person who's in a great relationship, right? Start with you. And if you want more love, give yourself more love. If you want more love notes, write yourself more with love notes. If you want flowers by yourself, flowers. And if you want to be seen, start seeing yourself, right, start acknowledging your accomplishments, your amazingness, and start to have more fun with yourself. Be more spontaneous if that's what you want more of in your life, and really be the amazing person to be in an amazing relationship with.

And whether you're already in a relationship or you're wanting to attract one, that's the same advice I would give, because that will create, that will create more of what you want. If you're being more of what you want, you're going to get more of what you want. 

Question: Can law of attraction be applied to health and wellness?

Absolutely. I think that this is health and wellness is maybe one of the trickier. It doesn't have to be trickier, but people can get stuck here because so often health and wellness is automatically what we don't want. When we start thinking about health and wellness. A lot of times it comes not always, but it comes from the place of like what you don't want.

I don't want to feel this. I don't want this pain. I don't want whatever. And so the key really to applying LOA to health and wellness is who are you when you're healthy and well, you know, what's happening in your life. What's not happening in turning up the volume on that. You know? So if you walk pain free, it's really paying more attention to those moments where there is no pain than when there's pain, right. Or really consciously if it's about a certain look or feeling in your body, you know, catching that. One of the old things that I, or one of the things that I did sort of in the beginning of my journey was if I knew a mirror was coming up, I'd just put a thought in before I got in front of the mirror.

So there was no like interruption time. Right, right. Before you crossed it, like you're beautiful and move on.  There wasn't a time for anything else. So you train that or whatever it is that I wanted to be feeling that day. So definitely can be applied. And I think it's one of those places where there's this bigger Uplevel.

Cause you have to step in to the space of a lot of what isn't and feel into that. 

Question: Can you clarify, manifesting and putting energy into what I want versus faking it until I make it?

Answer: Yes. Do you happen? Have a specific example? If not, that's okay. But I mean, I guess I'll take my current work situation, Right. That it's I know what I'm doing now. I don't want to do so. It's like, my energy is going to what I don't want. But then when I think about what I, something else,

I feel like that's not genuinely what I want, if that makes sense. So it feels like I'm faking that feeling of Oh, okay. So like, when you think about what you want in a job, or when you try to make yourself feel happy about a job you're not happy about Oh, okay. Those are two different. I think it's both right.

Like, because in my current situation, it's, I am trying to feel happy when I'm not happy. Right. So that definitely feels obviously like I'm faking it till I make it. But then when I try to get excited about a new opportunity, that doesn't, that I can't feel my, like I'm not feeling excited about even just leave possibility of something new,

because I'm unclear of what, what I want. Yeah. So I think two things are happening. Number one, you're going too far forward. Like you're going to like, oh, I'm trying to get excited about something. Trying to find the feeling first, which is a lot of that is out there a lot in other way. But I would just start picking the little things that you want.

Like even down to, like, if you go into an office, this is maybe not everyone's reality, but you know, like who's the receptionist, like, do you get greeted in the morning? Like, do you want to say hi to your coworkers? Do you want to work in a place where people say hi to each other? Right. Cause some people want that.

And some people don't right. But getting to those smaller things that have nothing to do with the work and starting there, like how this is a place you spend eight hours a day. So whether it is on zoom or in an office, like how do you want to feel there? What are the experiences you want outside of like the technical work, like what you're doing.

Right. And tap into that experience. If you want laughter you want collaboration, you know, whatever that is, you know, tap in to all of that and let that be the seedlings versus like, I'm trying to get excited, but I don't know what I'm excited about. Like Just start naming things that you can identify what you want. And then I would,

I would stop putting energy into wanting to be happy at your job because it's wrangle energy, right? Like it's like wrestling something. And so it takes so much more energy to try to force yourself to be happy then to just be pissed off when you're pissed off. And you have a better chance of getting to neutral at your current job and feeling like neutral for those eight hours a day,

you still have 16 hours to feel amazing, which is way more than eight hours. Right. If you know, that's how the math breaks up, but wrangling and trying to force yourself to be happy is probably just sucking even more energy out. And It's Exhausting. Right. You know, and it's okay to not love where you are. Like it's okay to not love it right now.

And be honest about that. I don't think we have to fake it. I don't think we have to fake. Like, I'm so happy at my job until we're somewhere else. I think we have to do the things that make it so that we can become neutral. Like if anything, it's become neutral, I wouldn't say get through it. I would say become neutral in this space.

From that neutral place, you can create amazing. But when it really sucks, that's a little bit harder. So finding the ways just to get to neutral first and that means feeling the feelings that means when it's crappy feeling crappy, it means feeling your feelings. It doesn't mean get sucked into telling the story.

Right. Cause there's a difference between, oh, I'm still like feeling your own feelings and going, you know, which used to be a habit sort of in my corporate job, like, oh, go tell five people the story that that's just feeling the story. That's not really feeling the feelings. Right. Right. And the wrangling, I remember that from another interview series,

we talked about like wrangling those, those feelings. And honestly, yeah, it does. I feel like I'm a toddler having a tantrum and like my future self is trying to be like, okay, come on. And I'm like, stop. I'm like, but I do, I appreciate the advices or explaining like it's okay. And I, and maybe that's where the judgment is coming in of,

of like feeling like I always have to be positive because if I'm not, then I'm repelling the good stuff. Right. And I'm just getting more of the bad stuff. And I think that's where my worry is. As far as yeah. Being like, I am always happy. Everything's great. But at the end of the day, I'm like, oh my God,

I'm so exhausted of trying to be like this upbeat person when yeah. Okay. Yeah. Let it be what it is and try that for a week and see how that works out. Yeah. You know, I I'll be honest like earlier today, if you don't mind me sharing, like when I was talking about how I had to like breathe through some feelings and emotions,

because I, I was getting on a call with someone who I work with, who I just don't get along with. And, and I had it, like there were, there were these, like it was building up in my head, but then I was like, Nope, that's just story. You don't know what's happening. Like just breathe through it.

Let everything kind of go through. And I got through the call and it was almost an hour call. And afterwards I was like, okay, that was it. Like, you know, I felt like at first I'm like, oh, I have to be, you know, standoffish. And like, I'm gonna show her like whatever. But then I was like,

that doesn't accomplish anything. I'm going to feel like crap afterwards. Just like you said, be neutral. Right. Like she was like, how was your trip? I'm like, great. So what's going on this week? Like, I'm not, I don't want small talk. This is what it is like, and I'm here to do work. Yeah.

Like I'm here to show up for eight hours. I'm not going out of my way to be a pain or overly friendly and faking it till I make it. I'm I'm here to do my job and then go do what else I wanted to do. So. Awesome. Thank you. 

Question: How do you handle it if you have the thought, with more money comes more debt?

One of the ways that I make debt neutral is not seeing it as like this huge pile. Right. It is. It's always a tool for something. If it's a tool that I learned a lesson on, great. I had those in my past. Right. If it is something that I did for business,

I mean, so for me personally, the most debt I ever had was when I became financially independent, because I was leveraging someone else's money to create that. And so that was the immediate thought for me. And so I'd find the thing that feels better. Right. It doesn't have to like wipe out that fear or anything like that, but okay, cool. If that happens, I'll just manifest more money, right? No, I love that. I mean, that's it, it's the thought process, like you said, like if I have more debt, I just have even more money. Yeah. Simple. Thank you. 

Question: Why don't I get to apologize for being late to a call?

And I know that you coached me in the moment that it was okay. That everything was perfect, but afterwards I kind of went away from that kind of feeling like, well, no, it didn't feel right. Like I, I feel that I have integrity to the group and that I want to be present. And I, I don't want to miss part of the call.

And, and at the same time, I know like when sometimes when people apologize to me, I'm kinda like what that doesn't make sense. You know? And, and so I guess I'm just curious if, if you have any further comments about that, or maybe if there's a way that I could have said that differently instead of apologizing, Just show it.

Answer (includes integrity discussion)

So I think we get, and sometimes, and you get to decide this part for yourself. Like, what is our, like, where does integrity? Like it cut like very often what happens is we get someone else's version of integrity and someone says we have to do that. And here's the steps, right? One of those generally being like show up on time.

And so if that is our own and we create our own it's perfect. I still don't think we have to, we just get to show up. Like, when you say like, I have integrity of the group, I'm like, of course you showed up, right? Like you show up, like the integrity for me is showing up authentic, being open.

Like, because that is what empowers other people. Like, we shared it in the last interview, you know, and, or two interviews ago when Nicole said like, watching you grow is like, gives hope. Like for me, we have, my integrity is to show up, present and open and available and all of that. And so just defining it for yourself and just knowing that I,

I get to show up, like I'm worthy to enter the room when I enter the room. Like, like, you know, like, because my presence matters. It matters in any moment. And for you guys, what I assume is if you don't, you're not there in the start of the call. Like something else was more important. It's not that this call wasn't important.

It was that your making the space and for a lot of you show up to more than an hour call a week. And so that takes maneuvering your life, right? We're all growing into freedom. So not all of you, you know, you all have jobs and you have families and you have transportation and you have businesses and you have things to navigate.

And so the fact that you show up for yourself is important enough. And when you show up, like that's when it matters. Like what, whether it's five minutes before the end of the call, because sometimes people mix the call up and then they get there like five minutes early, but they're really 55 minutes late. Like you show up, it doesn't matter.

Like that's the perfect time. And very often I love that. I saw like the smiles, as I said, that story. Cause you guys remember that very often, that person who comes in and that five minutes has some amazing question that blows everybody's mind. Right. The answer is like, it's worth it. It doesn't matter whether they were there or not,

because that five minutes was golden. Did that give you perspective, shift? Anything? You have another bring up another question. Yeah. Yeah. I guess I'm kinda feeling like, like I understand, I understand, like that's your, the meaning that you have for the integrity. And so I feel like that Doesn't have to be yours though. Yeah.

Yeah. Like I feel, I feel like I have my, how I feel about how I come into a call now is going to be different because of that. I think. Awesome. And I guess, I, it part, I, I felt like I wanted, I wanted to like have a platform in a sense of being able to communicate to the group that I,

what my feeling of integrity is. Yeah. I mean, so you can, it's just not like, I'll be honest with you. I like this space is so sacred. I don't want to waste it apologizing. Like that's wasted energy. Like it doesn't like if you need to great, but the energy of what we create, like there's no apologies.

Like we just don't apologize in this space. Like, and it's okay to like, if you want to apologize to someone for being late. And sometimes I do, like sometimes I don't. Right. Because as I've grown, what I've learned is if I trust the timing, it's way more important than me being crazy. This is for me being crazy about showing up on time.

Right. Cause there are days I will be early and then zoom will mess up. And like, it looks like I'm two minutes late, but I've been waiting for you guys for seven minutes, you know, like I've been here. Right. And that happens in life. And I think for me, it's about being present when we get there in the space,

on the enchanted circle calls, just if it's too sacred to apologize, But we all just get to show up. It's it's just too sacred to be apologizing for anything. Unless we offend someone. 

Discussion about why Chona's job isn't awesome and how it matches the energy she created it from. 

right? Yeah. Yeah. So this is created in this older version of you, this past version who had all these other layers of stuff. Right. And so what, what might even be feeling crappy right now was felt good in a way before, because it's what you attract. Like it's what you were used to. Right. But now you're different.

And so He was sweating that struck a nerve. Woo. Yeah. Yeah. Like in, on the call earlier, when you were coaching, was it Vicky? Like I resonated with so much of what she was talking about and yeah. Just what, what you said. It was like, I created this job from a total lack mentality. I was like,

I just need a full-time job to pay off this debt. And I paid off the debt and now, yeah. Wow. That is a huge aha. Huge. I didn't even think about it that way that this was created. Like this was three years ago where I was in a completely different space mentally and emotionally. Yes. Ooh. Okay. Thank you,

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