Do you feel like you have to do things you don't want to do in order to get what you want in life? I used to feel like if I wanted to get what I wanted in life, I had to do things I didn’t want to do. It sucked feeling like in order to have what I wanted, it would suck getting there because it involved doing things I didn’t really want to do. Until I learned to let go of resistance.

What is resistance? For me, I used to consider it as a way of rebelling. Always doing things my way, which wasn’t necessarily the easy way. I would rebel against what I thought I didn’t want, and what I thought the answer was to getting what I wanted.  If a choice was presented to me and it wasn’t the choice I wanted, I would go create a new choice for myself instead of just doing the thing that needed to get done. What are you resisting doing to get you what you want?

While I was manifesting my dream life, that included becoming a coach, I was resisting getting a job. I knew the amount of money I needed while I was working towards being a coach, but instead of getting a job to meet my needs, because I didn’t like that choice, I went and created a different choice. It wasn’t really a choice, it was more of a decision of what I was going to do versus what I needed to do. I was going to be different and just manifest the money faster, rather than get a job to support myself while I was growing my coaching. What I created instead was more stress, more of not getting what I wanted, which led to being desperate and needing a job. 

So, how do you stop resisting doing things you don’t want to do, so you can get more of what you want in life? Here are the steps I took to stop resisting:

1. Focus on what you want.
2. Get clear on what you need while you're working towards what you want.
3. Stop resisting and do it anyway.

Focus On What You Want. What is it that you want more of? More money, more time, more freedom, more happiness? You know you want something, a goal or a destination to get more out of life. Focus on what that life looks and feels like. 

Get Clear.  Get clear on what you need while you’re working towards what you want. Is it more money? Is it working an extra day or extra hours at your current job? Is it more training? Is it asking someone else for support? What do you need to support you while you’re working towards having more in your life?

Stop Resisting. Stop resisting what you don’t want to do and do it anyway. Do you need to work extra hours for the next 6 months? Do you need to create a website? Do you need to call people that you don’t want to call? Whatever it is that you don’t want to do, do it anyway. Do it anyway, all while focusing on what you want and being clear that by doing it, it will make it easier for you to get more of what you want. Being clear on what you need to support you getting there. When you stop resisting, you open up space to create ways of getting and doing what you need so much easier. When you resist, you actually block getting more of what you want with ease. You can’t see other choices or options, because you’re too busy resisting just doing what you need to do.

I know I wouldn’t have gotten through this on my own. Having a coach to guide me to realize that I was resisting (rebelling) getting a job, allowed me to choose to show up and do it differently. I learned to focus on what I wanted, which was becoming a coach and what that life looked like for me. I got clear on what I needed to support me while I was working towards that. For me, it was a certain dollar amount, and I created a budget. When I resisted, I got to a point where I had to have a job, there was no question. She guided me to let go of my resistance to getting a job. It wasn’t easy at first, I mean, I literally took a job that felt soul crushing because I had been resisting for so long. The day before I was supposed to start, I said I don’t wanna do this job, there has to be something different. And then there was! 

When I stopped resisting getting a job, it opened up the space for the perfect job to show up. I got a job that was fun and easy. Because I had a budget and knew the amount of money I needed to support me while I was becoming a coach, I only needed to work that job for 5 months.  Learning to stop resisting opened up so much space for more of what I wanted to show up and flow into my life. It made it easier and easier to have more of what I wanted to manifest my dream life.

Are you ready to stop resisting what you don’t want to do to get more out of life? Then I invite you to listen to my Year of Growth interview on Manifesting Success Stories, where you hear more in depth how I stopped resisting and I am now getting more of what I want out of life, and doing less of what I don’t want to do to get it. Listen here:  How To Stop Resisting When You Are Manifesting Your Dream Life.

Written with Intention by Abundance Facilitator Kimberly