Relationships with the ones we love and care about are important to us. So, when something is wrong or broken you want to fix it. But how do you do that?

Maybe you don’t. Maybe you grow yourself and then follow inspiration for a more lasting solution, a permanent fix to your relationship.

Why? Because often what needs fixing in a relationship is how we are showing up. Who we are being is part of what is creating the problem. If you show up as the same person, you’re likely to keep creating the same problem over and over again. 

What do you do when you feel like there is no solution? Like you can't come up with one more thing to "fix" this relationship.

You do nothing.

If the solution is not clear, or what to do is not inspired, you do nothing. 

I got this advice for the first time when I was 15. There was a tarot reader or psychic at my dad’s company picnic. I asked her what I should do about a friend that we had stopped talking to each other. She said, “nothing.”

“Nothing???” I thought. “How will that fix anything?” The truth is it won’t “fix” anything. It will allow things to move, change and shift as needed in order for something new to grow. 

If the solution isn’t clear, it’s not time to “do” anything. Rather it’s time to BE more of who you want to become. 

What can you do to BE more?

1. Feel your feelings. Allowing yourself to feel your feelings fully moves the energy of the emotion through you. That way, when it’s time to talk or do something the charge of the situation is gone. 
2. Evaluate if you are being fully present in the situation. Are you bringing the past into this situation? Are you seeing it clearly in the present?
3. Choose who you want to be in this situation. Decide how you are going to show up when it’s time to do something or talk about something. 
4. Live your life.
5. Follow inspiration for reaching out, connecting, etc. Only take inspired action. 

In order to do this, you have to be willing to sit in the uncomfortable space in the middle. It’s not easy, but you can do it. It probably won’t feel good because it feels good to do something, even if it’s not working. 

It’s harder at first, but easier and more productive in the long run to grow a relationship rather than fix it. It’s hard because you’re changing patterns you have been living and creating. It will be easier in the long run, because when you grow things naturally evolve and get better. You have less things to fix and when problems arise, you can grow through them. Sometimes people think both people have to change in order for a relationship to change. However, if one person changes, it changes the dynamics and the whole relationship starts to evolve. 

In episode #322 of Manifesting Success Stories just under minute 12 Chona talks about her experience doing nothing in a situation with a loved one and how she’s changing the pattern that has been. She talks about coming from the present in the situation rather than basing her responses on things that happened in the past. She shares how she is feeling her feelings fully. Listen to an expert at the top of the page, or click here to listen to the whole episode. 

You’ll also hear just under the 20 minute mark of the show Kate talk about allowing her husband to be himself and how that is making her life and their relationship better. 

In this episode you will hear Chona’s story and three other amazing manifestors talk about their journey of manifesting their dreams. 

Manifesting Success Stories is a positive, reality podcast that chronicles the journeys of those using the law of attraction to create money and their dream lives. They share their success, shifts and ups and downs as they grow more into their Future Selves.

In episode #322 you will also hear about:

• Amazing manifestations including a Marc Jacobs bag
• How time is not linear and this plays into manifesting
• How your perception of the past shapes present problems
• Stop living your old story for better manifesting
• Growing through your old self/identity
• Standing up for yourself
• Setting boundaries
• Saying no when it doesn’t feel good
• Growing through not feeling worthy of manifesting love and money to move
• Feeling more confident in investing my money when it’s a hell yes!!!