What if I could show you how to manifest making things easier?

Three years ago, that’s what I wanted too. Life used to feel so difficult for me, I was working 3+ jobs, auditioning for plays, performing in shows, and teaching theater classes. All I wanted was to find a way to make things easier. I was exhausted from all the different jobs I was working, I wanted to have more fun and ease!

There’s a process I learned how to move through that really taught me how to welcome more ease into my life. This process allowed me to stop feeling like I was being pulled in too many directions, and even have more fun! I learned how to choose the easier option.

In Law of Attraction, what we focus on we get more of. This includes our choices. The choices we make are for the Universe to collect data. “Oh they said yes to this so they want more of things like this.” “They said no to this, so we’ll stop sending them things that don’t feel good.” Everything we choose is sending a data point out into the ether, helping form the rest of our stories.

I wanted more ease, so I started making choices based on “does this feel easy?” Every time I came up to a choice, I would answer through the filter of “Does this feel easy?” If it didn’t feel easy, I said no. If it DID feel easy, I said yes.

Saying yes to things that felt easy, and no to things that didn’t feel easy (even if they should’ve been easy, somethings didn’t feel easy to me at that moment). There could be any number of reasons why something doesn’t feel easy. It could be that your schedule is already full, it seems too expensive, or you’re starting to feel a cold coming on. The reasons don’t matter, what matters is the data you are sending the universe, i.e. yes or no. When you continually show the universe that you want more easy things, you will be presented with more and more easy things.

Here are a few examples and scenarios of choices you may come up to where you can choose the easier option.

What’s for dinner?

I know I have ingredients in the fridge that need to be used up, they’re weird ingredients though, I’ll have to find a new recipe. Oh, don’t I have a box of mac n’ cheese in the pantry? I’ve got all the ingredients for that. I don’t know which to pick.

In this example, which feels easiest to this person? The mac n’ cheese. This person could go down a path of thinking about “But it’s healthier to make the food I have in the fridge,” etc. But remember, right now we’re focusing on creating more EASE in our life. So by picking the easier (mac n’ cheese) option, we will start being presented with more ease in the future. When you choose more ease, your body will feel easier, and therefore healthier too. None of the reasons matter, the easy is what matters.

Pickup line at school

It’s my turn to pick up the kids from school. I really don’t feel well though, I’m achy and really tired. I should get up and get going. If I take some meds and take a shower, maybe I’ll feel more like going. It’s not that bad, I could definitely just show up but ugh I feel awful. Oh my sister is off from work today, she did tell me she’d be happy to take one of my pick up days if I ever needed. I don’t want to inconvenience her though, what if she’s doing a house project?

In this scenario, which feels easiest to this person? Asking their sister to pick up the kids, or taking meds and taking a shower to try to amp themselves up for going? Calling her sister feels easiest. There are thoughts this person is having about inconveniencing their sister and telling themselves their symptoms aren’t that bad. Overall though, if they choose to ask for support (the easier option),  they’re giving the universe a signal that they want more ease in their life. Even if the sister says no, that person still is showing the universe they want more of the easy thing.

Sign your kid up for a new sport

There’s a deal going on for a local Krav Maga class for kids, it’s a really great discount. Sally just told me she’d be happy to give the kids rides to and from class. The kids really need to join a sports program, but even with the discount it’s too expensive, plus I really don’t want to add another thing to our schedule that I have to juggle and plan around. They already have almost every day after school booked, ugh but they really need a sports program too. I don’t know if I should sign them up or not.

Here we have a person who has listed a few ways that signing their kids up for class doesn’t feel easy. It doesn’t feel easy because it’s too expensive, and their schedule is full already. It would be the easier option to say no to signing their kids up. Even though they want their kids in a sports program, this one the universe offered up isn’t it. By saying no, they are telling the universe to present a better option. They are sending data that they want an even easier sports option for their kids. The best way to tell Sally no thank you, is to say, “That class doesn’t feel good to us right now, but thanks for the offer, we appreciate it.” Done!

Workouts

It’s Tuesday again, and I know there’s a HiiT class at the gym at noon on my lunch break. I just don’t feel like it. I know it’s so good for me and I should do it, it’s supposed to improve so much of my life. Ugh I just don’t want to go right now. I don’t want to have to rush to get dressed, drive quickly over, get all sweaty, rush home, then get a shower before I hop back on zoom. It’s just too much. But I know it’s good for me, so I should go. Maybe I could go for a walk in my neighborhood instead? The dog would enjoy it and it would feel good to feel the fresh air too. I wouldn’t have to shower, and I’d have enough time to eat lunch. But HiiT is better for me, I should do that.

We have another decision - go to a workout class, or go for a walk with the dog? There are a lot of “should”s happening in this scenario, which can happen a lot in our world. Does this person want more shoulds or more easy? If this person wants more “shoulds” they would pick hustling to the gym, if they want more “easy” they would pick a walk with the dog.

New job

This job offer came out of nowhere. It’s more money for sure, but I’d have to work like 60 hour weeks. I’m making enough at my current job and it’s better hours. I don’t want to tell the universe “no” to more money though, maybe that means I need to take it. But 60 hours a week? I wouldn’t be able to have a life anymore, it would be exhausting.

New exhausting job or current satisfactory job? If you start saying no to things like this, you’re not telling the universe “no I don’t want more money,” you’re telling the universe, “no I don’t want hard money.” This data will be used to filter out job offers and money offers going forward. When you say No to something that’s got a lot of money but doesn’t feel easy, you’ll start getting easier money. Isn’t easy what we’re looking for in these scenarios?

Choosing easy can sometimes feel like giving up something else, but is that true? By choosing easy, you’re holding the space for easy.

After I started implementing this practice, I found my schedule was whittling down to only the things that truly felt good. I was no longer being pulled in too many directions, I was being present and I was experiencing more fun! I said no to new job offers, free flights for a weekend away, cocktails out with friends, massages, and so much more. The life I live now is consistently fun and easy.

If you want to hear more about this part of my journey, learning how to create more ease and saying no, check out this episode. Cassie and I discussed how I learned to say no to something I really wanted, but didn’t feel easy. Soon after saying no, something beyond amazing and perfect fell into my lap, the opportunity to coach and guide my own clients through their own journeys!

Next time you are feeling like you are being pulled in too many directions, implement this practice to create more fun and ease in your life.