What myths do you have about Manifesting and Law of Attraction?  Here are my Top 3 Myths, and why now I know they aren't true!

Myth #1 - You have to be positive 100% of the time, or you have to start all over with what you want to manifest.

Do you think that you have to be positive 100% of the time, or you can't manifest anything? I know I believed that I couldn't be negative and really had to practice being Positive Polly and if I wasn't, I would apologize to the Universe, or whoever or whatever I was being negative about. OMG that was exhausting! I was so vigilant all the time, and I just kept going in circles thinking I'm never gonna get this down. I don't even trust people who act like Positive Polly's all the time, I wonder what the heck is wrong with them.

Then I learned that this was BS on so many levels. I now know that I can be negative, or have a feeling that would be considered negative, but it didn't mean that I had to start from scratch to manifest what I wanted and that I didn't have to be Positive Polly 100% of the time. I gave myself permission to feel how I was feeling, then I got to choose where to go from there. 

You've probably learned throughout your life that certain feelings are "good" and others are "bad".  When you choose to be "neutral" about the feeling, meaning not labeling it good or bad, then allow yourself to feel it, you're creating space and letting the old go.  Choosing to feel your feelings, and knowing that it doesn't mean you've screwed up your manifesting, is a big game changer to bringing in more of the feelings you do want, along with manifesting what you want!  

Myth #2 - Positive affirmations and visions boards will get you what you desire.

Do you believe that if you write and say positive affirmations and create a vision board, that you'll manifest everything you've ever wanted? Have you tried that and it didn't work, so maybe you think this manifesting stuff is complete bs? I know I felt that way and believed that.

I can't tell you how many positive affirmations I wrote, said, made mantras, and the vision boards! I had so many vision boards, and I kept making them because I thought the Universe forgot what I wanted....I had sooo many things I wanted, so I had to keep making them so I knew for sure that my wants were clear. It's like I knew they were supposed to help, but I was missing something, because they weren't working.  The only thing I ever manifested on my past vision boards, before I learned what I know now, was a black german shepherd.

Let's talk about positive affirmations.  I no longer have these.  Not that you can't use them, yet what I have learned is that we say positive affirmations because we don't trust that what we want is on it's way.  Therefore, we have to affirm to the Universe, or whoever is holding the magic wand to grant our wishes, that we still want this thing, and we're being positive about it.  Just know that you don't have to say or write 100 positive affirmations a day in order for you to manifest what you want.

How many vision boards have you made?  As I said above, I made a new vision board each time I thought the Universe forgot what I wanted because it hadn't shown up yet.  I thought that I had to sit and study and FOCUS on this vision board as if my life depended on it.  One more important thing, underneath it all, I didn't really believe that what I put on my vision board, I could actually manifest.  I mean I lived in a 2 bedroom tiny duplex and I put a 25 acre farm with a 3 story home and all the toys you could imagine on my vision board.  I didn't know how to be the person who would actually live in that vision board.

Vision boards do work, just not the way I thought they did and how I saw a lot of people teaching how to do them.  When I created my first vision board with my coach, it was for a very specific dollar amount, $10,000 and what I would invest my $10,000 in.  It felt more believable to me and my brain, that I could do this.  I didn't spend hours a day looking at it and saying positive affirmations about it either.  I hung it in a place that I would see often, and each time I saw it, I would smile and see myself as the person who was enjoying what was on my vision board as if I already had it.

Myth #3 - Have to be really focused on what you want.

Do you believe that if you lose focus on what you want, or don't spend so many hours a day focused on it, then it's never going to come? I believed that I had to be so focused on it that I also had to figure out how to make it happen. You know, if I was focused on the planning of how to make it happen, then by shear force of will, it would happen. Needless to say, that was exhausting, and it kept up a repeated lesson, or story that I really sucked at manifesting. I could get a great parking spot, I'd find a penny here or there, I would maybe win on a scratch off, you know, random manifesting that just never took up any momentum.

Looking back, I am so glad I discovered my coach and learned that the more I pushed or forced, the more I kept what I wanted from getting to me.  Being so focused was actually telling the Universe "I Don't Trust YOU" to bring it to me, therefore I have to force it to happen on my own.   We've been told throughout our lives, that we have to stay focused on what we want in order to get it.  I for one am grateful that myth is so not true when it comes to manifesting.  What I learned was to focus on how I would feel when what I wanted showed up!!  That's the secret!

Do you have Law of Attraction Myths that you'd like to change?  Ready to up your manifesting game?  Then come join me in Pay After You Manifest, where you learn how to make manifesting work for you and let go of those myths that have been holding you back.